You see guys, you haven't met the most incredible woman in my life. She gave birth to 7 kids, the first one was a caesarean baby, where the doctor said that the chances of her having another baby was very little. But SubhanAllah, He is the Most Merciful and Most Gracious, blessed her with another 6 in tow.
She married early, had a baby 1 year after her marriage, received her Master and PhD with 7 kids. She is a lecturer, a doting wife, a loving mother, a caring daughter. She is patient, and calm and she almost always never worries.
She is my super woman. She is my mother.
I was always a worry-wort. I worry constantly about things I can't change (or things I am too lazy to change), and I always tell my mother. Calmly she tells me, "If you can't change it, or do anything about it, then why worry?"
The other day when news broke out that North Korea was threatening South Korea (even though we all know it's just a bluff) mothers from Malaysia ask my friends, saying that they are worried. That night I skyped with my mother, and asked her, has she heard the news. Nonchalantly she said yes and I laughed. I asked her, "Aren't you worried about me?" She said "If I do, what can I possibly do about it?" That is why, my mother is cool.
I confess, that I take almost nothing from my mother except physical traits. My mother is calm, I get excited pretty easily, she's patient, I am not, she likes physics, I don't, she hates biology and geography and those are my favorite subjects, she's hardworking and persevering, I am not as enthusiastic about getting my masters or my PhD anytime soon. She was more introvert when she was younger, but I am a social butterfly.
But you see, my mother is my best friend. All of my horrible traits, only she can put up, only she can put me straight. You see, I was never really helpful, rebellious, but bless her soul, she puts up with me until I am who I am now. I always wanted to imitate her. I had dreams of marrying and having 7 kids like her, 3 boys 4 girls (although that seems like a far fetched idea in this economy), I wanted to get my masters and PhD before 40, basically I want to be like my mother.
I always feel like, my birthday, my sisters' and brothers' birthdays are not a celebration for us, but a celebration for her and my dad. She's been putting up with us from almost 28 years, and she still looks relatively young compared to her age.
Reasons why my mom is cool:
1. She is never overprotective.
2. She treats me like a grown up.
3. She was always answering my questions, however ridiculous they were.
4. She managed to raise 7 kids, who are doing pretty fine.
5. She never worries about things she can't change.
6. We talk about boys and marriage and physics and economics and politics and my elder sister's horrible sense of style.
7. She is simplistic but elegant.
8. Sometimes she is skeptical and I am somewhat of a dreamer so we always argue about that.
9. I can tell her ANYTHING. A boy that I like? I tell her. My gross new pimple? I tell her. I'm failing physics even if the chapters are what I've learnt since 17 years old? I tell her, she nags, I laugh, and tell her I just cannot brain physics.
10. We argue about whether physics is more fun and easier to understand than biology pretty much most of the time when we skype.
11. She lets me pick my own clothes, even when I was little because I used to hate the clothes she picked out for me.
12. Encourages reading.
13. Cooks really deliciously even my friends approve.
14. Gives me the enthusiasm to keep going and to study harder.
15. Says that I can pick my own husband and that Abah is not going to find one for me.
16. Tells me to peel potatoes but doesn't have a potato peeler so I complain so she tells me to buy one for her when I go back to Malaysia.
17. Reminds me that I still haven't spoken Korean to her, and I cannot claim that I'm good in Korean if she hasn't heard it yet.
The list goes on.
I was rummaging through my pictures, and realized that I don't take a lot of pictures with my mom, which is sad, and I promise to take more pictures when I go back to Malaysia.
Happy Mother's Day, to all the cool moms, single moms, working moms, stay-at-home moms, moms' moms, and all the potential moms. Jannah is beneath your feet, a new generation is in your womb, power is in your hands, civilization is in your mind, humanity is in your warmth, and Allah's blessing is in your prayers.
To Mama,
Happy Mother's day. I love you, though I wish I'd show it more. Happy Mother's day everyday, thank you for EVERYTHING and sorry for everything else in between.
P/s. I believe that all my pictures are in my old laptop, and I am lazy to go rummage through the files in my old laptop since it's so slow.
Pp/s. I have no idea what sort of post this is, the format and the severe lack of order in this post makes me cringe but mehh..it wasn't suppose to be a formal post anyway.
(I have my dad's smile, and we all have smiling eyes ;p)
Assalamualaikum.
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